Love...the most wonderful feeling in the world.
When you’re lucky enough to find "The One" don’t put added pressure on the magical emotion with wedding planning stress.
Thank goodness society has caught up with the rest of the universe and anyone in love is free to marry and make that declaration of devotion to the world.
I have planned my own wedding however, the stress of it overshadowed what should’ve been one of the most exciting times in our relationship. I didn’t get my wedding day because it.
I don’t want anyone else to go through that. I completely understand how overwhelming planning the best day of your life can be and I’m using my professional event management skills and personal experience to take away that stress from you and your sweetheart, so you can concentrate on being in love and starting the next chapter of your own love story.
Don’t worry about table settings, this flower or that flower. Take your loved one out for dinner and make those all important plans for your future, I’ll worry about the details.
Aunt Maud mustn't sit next to Aunt Clarence? Don’t worry about it!
Go for a walk or a show or drinks with your fiancé and spend the time remembering why you fell in love in the first place. I’ll ensure the seating plans works for everyone.
Now I know there will be some of you that still want to be fully involved in planning your fairytale wedding and that’s fabulous. However the big day goes so quickly, so be in the moment and let me look after things on the day for you. Afterall, it’s your big day and you need to enjoy every second of it - stress free.
What makes me qualified to do this?
I’ve planned and managed events for 20 years, including weddings, hen do’s, rehearsal dinners and bridal showers. Plus and possibly most importantly, I love Love!
The butterflies, the rush of emotion, the pure joy love can bring. I want to make sure everyone who is in love focuses on being in love and the excitement of what the future holds and not let stress get in the way of that.
Will I cry at your wedding?
Almost certainly because I’ll be so proud of you both and happy that your day has become everything you dreamed it would be. Plus who doesn’t cry at weddings?!
Think of me as your wedding fairy godmother 💞
Changing Events Weddings
So you’re a start up or simply trying to keep costs down and decide working from home is the best solution.
Yet on a daily basis, you’re working excess hours and going slightly crazy from the silence - sound familiar??
I totally understand.
Today, I spent four wonderful hours in the 2030business hub, where I hot desk with actual real life people and it was great!
The buzz of activity, the opportunity to speak to someone else and best of all, HAVING to shut down in order to get home in time for the school run. Bliss. Oh and I got soo much done ,even with three back to back meetings.
Which brings me onto another thing, being an entrepreneur and a mother all at the same time.
It’s one big juggling act which once again, can leave you racked with guilt but here is what I have discovered and more importantly come to peace with:
Now I’m not big on New Year Resolutions, I don’t like to intentionally set myself challenges I really don’t intend to complete however during December I realised there were a number of things I wanted to change and so the beginning of the year seemed like the best place to start than any other - plus I had a load of naughtiness to get through before the clock struck midnight on New Year’s Eve!
Firstly I want to make 2018 the year I change lives for people I don’t even know yet. I love this challenge because it gets right to the heart of who I am as a person. How do I do that through my own actions and my business…all will be revealed over the coming months. Trust me, you don’t want to miss it.
Secondly I want to rebrand and relaunch Changing Events. As an entrepreneur you have so many ideas and plans, you want to do them all at once and you confuse your customer. I have been guilty of that so throughout this first quarter of 2018, I will be streamlining and honing in on the things that my customers have said they want. Don’t get me wrong my ideas are still there buzzing away I’ve just learnt I don’t have to unleash them all at the same time.
So what does this all mean in terms of things coming up?
Well I’m building The Ladies Lounge into the supportive, motivational and powerful community of women who are passionate about what they do OR passionate about turning their dreams and ideas into what they do. If you’ve never tried ladies only networking, you really should. It’ll empower you more than you’ll ever realise.
My vision for Changing Events is for the company to provide events to meet the needs of all members of society, focusing on those with additional needs such as, Austim and Asbergers to attend mainstream events with adaptions. No one should be made to feel like they don’t belong.
This will become apparent through the first Changing Events Fashion Show taking place on Sunday 22 April.
As for my wonderful customers, thank you for supporting me over the past year. I am busy creating new innovations that will take away even MORE of the stress associated with hosting events. Things really are Changing.
I could go on and expand more and more, however it’s all about timing and right now isn’t the right time ;)
Until I write again…
Oh my goodness 2017 is rapidly coming to an end, where the hell did that year go???!
So much has happened during the past 10 months, I still pinch myself to believe that I have a business and that business is growing. It’s not all down to my hard work, I’ve a great group of people in my life that support me, keep me focused, stop me being too hard on myself and generally keep me going.
From family, close friends, business associates even that haters. All of them are important to me and to my drive in very different yet powerful ways.
Something that has really kept my eye on the ball has been constantly updating my goals. A good friend of mine pointed out that I have achieved three of the goals I set myself in my last blog piece, bizarrely I’d forgotten I’d written them in here as they are always in my mind. So it just goes to prove that if you really believe something will happen, it will happen.
I am always fixed on what I want to achieve next. Always. That doesn’t mean that sometimes I think I won’t achieve them however I am always thinking about them; The house I’m going to buy for me and my daughter, moving my mum up from London to be closer to me so I can look after her, turning the Ladies Lounge into a highly successful franchise, creating amazing annual events that are dedicated to getting those with additional needs to them, meeting my soul mate.
I think about them daily, no hourly. Aside from thinking about keeping my daughter safe and happy, I think of little else.
What do you think about constantly?? Whatever it is, make it something positive as the more you think about it the more real it becomes.
Set some goals, believe in them, think about them daily, work towards them - no matter what it takes.
Until next time x
Year One, done
I did it, I completed my first year in business!
I feel incredibly proud of my accomplishment, it's been a very interesting 12 months to say the least. Now it's time to refocus and set new targets for the next 12 months.
The first thing is to expand the team, if I've learnt one thing it's I can't continue to try and do everything myself. For Changing Events to grow in the direction I want it to, I need to recognise that there are somethings that require a skill set to match my own, which aren't my own.
So I really excited to say I have a promotions team!
Year Two, what will be new?
The Promotions team will focus on sharing the latest news on our events, clients and collaborations.
The core focus of the business will remain corporate and charity events, with the wonderful Ladies Lounge to develop and expand. More details on that as they unfold...
There is a brand new Changing Events newsletter that will be published this month, packed full of information, details on events, industry news and opportunities to collaborate. I'm soo excited!
You can sign up for the newsletter below.
This is just things covering the first six months of Year Two. Wait till you find out what's in store for the following six months!!
Until next time…
Wow, Changing Events is nearly a year old!
OK, so foolishly I thought at this point things would be getting easier and I would be looking at taking on staff, moving into offices and ordering a brand new car.
The last 12 months have been a mixture and of pleasure, pain, successes and failures. All of which have shaped the person I am today and given me so many tools and experiences that I am truly grateful for.
When I started my business I wanted to regain some control over my life, build a secure financial future for myself and my daughter and create unique events that take away stress from organisers and adds value to ticket purchasers.
For the most part I achieved my goals, in fact only one event I put on received complaints. Why am I telling you this, well I believe in being open and honest. Plus that event and those that didn't enjoy it have helped me shape the next 6 months of my business, my partnerships and the messages I put into public domain. Every person who got in touch with me I responded to personally and I dealt with personally. I feel that is the best customer service I can provide anyone that interacts with me or Changing Events.
The biggest question that it raised however was, "Do I have the control over my life and business that I wanted?" The answer was a resounding NO!
I'd let my excitement and envious thoughts of other entrepreneurs living what seems like perfect lives cloud my judgement and take me off track (they are not living perfect lives by the way. No one is). I stopped investing in my own self development, growth and learning and as a result I lost a bit of the control I set out to have.
Turns out this is not uncommon for small business owners. Phew!!
Those of you that know my back story know I'm not a quitter and that I take everything that comes my way as an opportunity to learn and grow. SOOOO
I reignited my passion for learning by reaching out to business mentors to give me a kick up the bottom and refocus. I researched and signed up to five training courses which will help me create specific, measurable, achievible, realistic, time manageable targets for the next 12 months. Most of all I have changed my thought processes and my personal goals. Now I can SEE the second year of business being the best yet. Very exciting!!
Upon speaking to my business mentor, she helped me realise that it's MY business. My working hours are set by me and me alone. As a single mum or a working parent in general, I don't and sometimes can't work normal 9-5 hours so why oh why am I killing myself (and the relationship with my daughter) trying to do that?
As a result of that call, I have set an auto responder on my emails stating clearly the hours/days I work and the timescales in which I will get back to people.
I can't tell you how good that has made me feel! Some control back, yes!
Now, it's about looking at the next 6 -12 months and setting goals. One of those goals is to network with other small business owners and not only meet new people but support them, help them through periods like I have gone through. We all go through them, it's just not everyone is brave enough to tell you that!
With that in mind and the fact that I control my working hours, I have set up The Ladies Lounge. A networking group for small business owners, working women and women looking to get back into the working world to connect and hopefully help each other reach those goals.
It's very exciting to watch it grow, I now have two lounges, Southport and Liverpool with London opening later in the year. Network events are Changing ;)
I can't wait to celebrate Changing Events first birthday on 23 August and what better way to do that then in the Southport Lounge with some lovely, inspirational women :)
Right, now it's Saturday lunch time and I have date with my daughter :)
Bye for now and remember, take time to invest in yourself. Rome wasn't built in a day and the only way to succeed is to learn from your failures.
Feel like everyone else around you is getting it right and you’re not? Well stop! There is not one person on this planet that is perfect and never will be.
Take me for example, everyday I set out to do very best I can, be the very best person I can, yet there is always someone ready to tell me I’m wrong or getting it all wrong. Not because I am, simply because I am not doing what they want me to do or they way they want me to do it.
You see, I am a rule breaker. Unintentionally and not through being a rebel, simply by knowing what I want, the person I want to be and sticking to my guns.
Don’t get me wrong that sometimes leads me to allowing people to upset me on large scales. Only last week I was rendered to tears more than once. I allowed someone to be incredibly rude to me, for a piece of mail to nearly break me and an email that made me question my entire life. I say allow, because in reality they have NO hold over me, no control over me at all. Only I control my emotions and my actions however for a day or two I forgot that and let those incidences control my thoughts.
Setting out on your own is a scary road to travel at the best of times. When you feel like you’re surrounded by experts and you’re the amateur in the playing field, it becomes overwhelming. Following the week that was last week, I have learnt a lot so I thought I would share it with you in the hope it will reassure you that hurdles are just that, hurdles not excuses to quit and certainly not definitions of your character.
No one is in control of my emotions - I can refuse to allow people to upset me by simple believing in myself and staying true to myself
Recognise and learn from each experience - You will make mistakes, we are all human however recognise them, own them, learn from them and don’t repeat them. If you an do that, they stop becoming mistakes and start to become learnings.
Be kind to yourself - All successful people started at the bottom and took time to get to where they are. As the old saying goes “Rome wasn’t built in a day” If someone tries to put you down or dim your shine, move away from them. You don’t need them in your journey. Truly successful, happy, people will help you even when you fall as they will recognise the mistakes from their own beginnings.
It’s OK to get scared and/or overwhelmed - staying focused and kind to yourself doesn’t mean you’re not allowed to get upset, scared overwhelmed or damn right angry. Resisting these emotions is actually counter-productive. Acknowledge them, deal with them then turn them into the burning desire to achieve your goals!!
No of us are perfect so own that and grow from it.
Being an entrepreneur is very lonely at times. Constantly being in your own head, trying to make decisions about every aspect of your business, plans, hopes and dreams is not only stressful it's also exhausting. Throw in being a single mum trying to build a business during school hours and you've got yourself a hot bed for self doubt, fear and the odd hissy fit!
Changing Events has been a dream of mine for a number of years, as I approach 12 months in business I can honestly say I totally underestimated how hard it can be at times to keep going when it seems like everything and everyone is against you.
However that said, I am incredibly proud of myself for facing the challenges and knocks head on AND most importantly learning from them so never to repeat them again.
In fact the things I have learnt over the last year have compelled me to help other women NOT to feel the same way. I know from first hand experience how tricky it can be juggling home life with work life and to stay sane at the same time.
Yes I know I have to work ON my business not just IN my business, finding that balance is a real skill. A skill I am now getting into and a skill I want to teach others.
So…how do I pass this learning on to all the other amazing women out there who are beating themselves up over and over again trying to do something for themselves whilst doing so many things for everyone else.
All will be revealed! Let's just say for now, it's going to be a journey for me as much as you or someone you know. No more battles in your own head, together we can support each other and left each other up :)
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